“You cannot always control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside.

Anytime stress hits us, it’s because we’re living in the future. We’re thinking about possible future outcomes that are likely to never happen, but yet we keep stressing out about it and all it does is take us out of the present moment.  One question I like to always ask myself is, “Is everything ok in this moment?” and the answer is usually always yes.  

The other thing I noticed is that I am hard on myself. Usually following up feelings with sayings like, “Stop it.” “Get over it.” “Knock it off.” As I was telling myself this, I imagined my 7 year old daughter and what I would say to her. I wouldn’t come at her with those remarks, I would be gentle, reassure her, and comfort her. So what I learned is to just be easy with it. Things are going to happen that sends us spinning out of control and that’s ok. We’ll get back on track and it’s ok to go a little off path for awhile, just bring yourself back sooner rather than later.


Here are some other tips I’ve found usually when things get a little overwhelming:


  • Go outside


This allows us to just be and get really grounded in the present moment. Notice your surroundings.


  • Meditate


Mediation helps us shut off our brain. Take 3-5 minutes; sit with your eyes closed and focus on your breathing. If thoughts come into your mind, acknowledge them and then release them.


  • Listen to your favorite music and have a dance party


Dancing allows us to be in the moment and raises our vibration immensely.


  • Journal


Write it all down and get it out of your head. Sometimes doing this is enough.


  • Write down 10 things you’re grateful for


Being grateful allows more joy to enter into our lives.


  • Watch a funny movie


Because sometimes you need a good laugh.


  • Do 20 jumping jacks or move your body


This will help energize you and wake up your body.


  • Do something nice for someone else


This is a great way to show appreciation and gets us out of our own heads


  • Take a shower


Decompresses and relaxes us.


  • Call a friend


Hanging around with positive people will help elevate your mood.

What helps you?

Erica Hoese is a wife, mother of 3, fitness & wellness coach, natural figure competitor, and speaker based out of Minnesota.
Her passion is encouraging and equipping moms, with young children who struggle with making time for themselves, how to live their happiest, healthiest, and best life.